Where Is My Husband!
by Raye

Album: yet to be titled (2025)
Charted: 2
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Songfacts®:

  • "Where Is My Husband!" is a brassy number that sees Raye searching for her life partner. Clearly tired of scrolling, swiping, and sighing, the singer laments her single status and beseeches the Lord to hurry her soulmate along.
  • Over jaunty horns and jazzy drums, Raye reels off her particulars like a personals ad: "Tell him I'm 5'5", tell him I got brown eyes." As the song progresses the search grows more manic, as she asks the pressing question: "What is taking him so long to find me?"

    The track culminates with Raye's grandmother delivering the reassuring message, "Your husband is coming."
  • The track comes from a long stretch of singledom for Raye, haunted by the fallout of a devastating breakup years earlier. That heartbreak, so central to her 2023 album My 21st Century Blues, reshaped what Raye wants in a man.

    "It took me three, four years to get over him. Like, I can't allow myself to fall in love again until it's safe," Raye told Vogue. "I need to know you could never hurt me like that."

    "I'm an old-fashioned girlie," she continued. "Is it too much to ask that I'm sat at a bar one day and you walk up to me, and we look into each other's eyes and you order me a negroni, and we get talking and you love jazz music and you're intelligent and you're telling me a quote about something and I'm like, 'Oh my God, I'm moved?"
  • While "Where Is My Husband!" is Raye's most direct and playful take on the subject, the theme of searching for (and sometimes doubting) lasting love has previously surfaced in her work. On her 2023 track "Worth It," Raye sings about wanting to be valued in a relationship, reflecting her hopes for a partner who will see her true worth. Another 2023 song, "Oscar Winning Tears," sees her reflect on heartbreak, resilience, and the kind of partner who won't let her down.
  • Raye wrote and produced "Where Is My Husband!" with Mike Sabath, who contributed to much of her 2023 debut, My 21st Century Blues.
  • Raye premiered "Where Is My Husband!" as the opening number of her Glastonbury Festival set on June 28, 2025, where she was accompanied by a brass band. She subsequently performed the song at All Points East and the Montreux Jazz Festival, with each performance building anticipation for the single release on September 19, 2025.
  • Mike Sabath also played drums and bass guitar on the track. The other musicians are:

    Chris Hill: bass guitar and piano
    Dan Ellis: percussion
    Mike Cordone: trumpet
    Ivan Malespin: trombone
    Rita Andrade: viola
    Yasmeen Al-Mazeedi: violin
    Distant Cowboy: cello
    Graeme Blevins: saxophone
  • The Reid Brothers (Ed Reid and Will Reid) directed the video. It begins in black and white before bursting into color when Raye appears on stage wearing a striking red dress. We see her searching for a mysterious man before ending with the empowering message to "find yourself and love will find you."
  • "Where Is My Husband" had a rocky start, as the pressure of following up her 21st Century Blues album left Raye feeling hyper-critical of her own writing. "When you haven't written for a long time, you start hating everything you come up with," she told the BBC.

    To reset, she and producer Mike Sabbath took a day off, walking in the woods and talking about life instead of working. The chorus came to her the very next day. "It was so exciting," Raye said, and from there they just chipped away at the rest of the track.

    They worked on "Where Is My Husband" right up to the wire, handing in the final mix just eight days before it had to be pressed to vinyl.
  • Raye and Mike Sabath went into the song with a clear sense of direction: Raye was drawing heavily from the vintage glamour of The Supremes, while Sabath wanted to expand the lush, brassy sonics he'd begun developing with her on song "Worth It" from My 21st Century Blues.

    To jump-start the writing process, they rented a ski cabin in Big Bear Lake, California, for 10 days. Once they settled in, they approached the song "in reverse," designing it around the dramatic flair of Raye's live show. The track began with a theatrical drum roll and bold brass hits before Sabath laid down the keyboard groove that anchors the song. "There's always time to sonically improve something, but there's not necessarily another time when that stroke of inspiration is there," the producer noted to Billboard.
  • Lyrically, Sabath mostly stepped back and let Raye lead, chiming in only when he needed to "Americanize" a line. They built the foundation in Big Bear, then finished the song at a studio in Joshua Tree, where Sabath recorded the horn parts. He later added strings back home. Raye contributed piano and bass in London.
  • Despite thinking the record was nearly finished, Sabath found himself making major mix revisions while jet-lagged in an Uber after landing in Australia. The song's ending became its own saga: Raye originally insisted on a dramatic extended finale, only to call Sabath the night before delivery and say, "We have to remove the ending." Sabath reworked a new ending over the phone with engineer Tony Maserati.

    Even after turning the track in, both Sabath and Raye felt the master wasn't hitting right. In true last-minute fashion, Sabath texted Maserati out of bed in the middle of the night; the engineer made coffee, went into his studio, and delivered the final bounce. The song was completed just 11 days before its release.
  • So what is Raye looking for in her future husband? On the Today show, she said he must make her laugh most of the time, be curious and able to teach her new interesting facts, and enjoy watching nature documentaries with her, especially works by David Attenborough.

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