Album: The Dutchess (2006)

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• Da da da da
  The smell of your skin lingers on me now
  You're probably on your flight back to your home town
  I need some shelter of my own protection, baby
  To be with myself and center
  Clarity, peace, serenity
  
  I hope you know, I hope you know
  That this has nothing to do with you
  It's personal, myself and I
  We've got some straightenin' out to do
  And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
  But I've got to get a move on with my life
  It's time to be a big girl now
  And big girls don't cry
  
  Don't cry
  Don't cry
  Don't cry
  
  The path that I'm walking
  I must go alone
  I must take the baby steps till I'm full grown, full grown
  Fairy tales don't always have a happy ending, do they?
  And I foresee the dark ahead if I stay
  
  I hope you know, I hope you know
  That this has nothing to do with you
  It's personal, myself and I
  We've got some straightenin' out to do
  And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
  But I've got to get a move on with my life
  It's time to be a big girl now
  And big girls don't cry
  
  Like the little school mate in the school yard
  We'll play jacks and Uno cards
  I'll be your best friend, and you'll be mine
  Valentine
  Yes, you can hold my hand if you want to
  'Cause I want to hold yours too
  We'll be playmates and lovers, and share our secret worlds
  But it's time for me to go home
  It's getting late and dark outside
  I need to be with myself and center
  Clarity, peace, serenity
  
  I hope you know, I hope you know
  That this has nothing to do with you
  It's personal, myself and I
  We've got some straightenin' out to do
  And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
  But I've got to get a move on with my life
  It's time to be a big girl now
  And big girls don't cry
  
  Don't cry
  Don't cry
  Don't cry
  
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Comments: 8

• Emmy from Bellville, OnSaddest song ever.
• Steve from Whittier, CaFergie usually samples but this is her own song, isn't it (I mean, not borrowed from another or a remake of a much much older like her collaboration with legendary samba-meister Sergio Mendes on the latter's mid 1960s "Mas Que Nada")...such sly stuff here: "play with my self.."
  
• Lori from Alexandria, VaNice song with an enticing video. The video does, however, take some artistic license departures from the lyrics. In the song, the narrator's lover is taking a flight back to his hometown; the video shows her leaving him in a 1969 Mustang (I'd vote for the old Ford, rather than an airplane, any day of the week!). The narrator also says that her struggle "has nothing to do with" her love interest, but the video suggests that she moves on because of his gangster connections and illegal drug use.
• Jeff from Boston, MaBy far the most musically interesting of Fergie's big hits. But I find the contrast jarring between the luscious sweetness of the verses and the screaming of the chorus, which seems like an attempt to project some sort of pseudo-feminist strength on what is essentially an admission of weakness. Also, I think the lyrics send a dubious message about relationships. The whole concept of "finding yourself" is grossly overhyped by our culture. If you find someone wonderful you can't just assume that they will be willing to wait around forever while you get your act together.
  
  It will be interesting to see whether people still find Fergie's music compelling when she is past the age of being a sex object. She reminds me very much of Nancy Sinatra in that way.
• Natasha from Oklahoma City, Okthis song and the other two listed above were all over the radio constantly which is common with new songs but why wasnt this played so much til like spring even tho it came out the year before that? this song still gets played alot but not like every 1 hour like it was last summer. and i have to agree with Carrie from Milford. i cant stand her other stuff. "Clumsy" only is marginally good and just because it has her singing in it instead of attempting to rap.
• Ashlynne from Candor, NcI'm usally a country girl but I like this song!
• Linda from OudenaardeMilo Ventimiglia plays her boyfriend in the video of Big Girls Don't Cry.
• Carrie from Milford, OhThis is the only Fergie song that I like, that doesn't have complete sh*t lyrics.

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